Alcoholics Anonymous: Working Step 6

“Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.”

What Does Step 6 Mean?

Even after working steps 1 through 5 – taking a moral inventory, baring your soul (to either yourself, others, or your higher power), and declaring yourself ready to turn your life over – you still may not be as prepared for change as you think you are. Step 6 highlights that only being willing to change an individual part of your life or your mindset – in this case, alcoholism – will not work. You cannot beat your addiction by wanting change in an isolated, compartmentalized fashion. Only when you’re willing to change all aspects of yourself will you find yourself with the correct mindset to succeed in recovery.

The Goal of Working Step 6

It’s easy to get distracted by the mention of character defects and feel that this step is all about identifying (more) flaws in yourself. However, the word “ready” is what gives an insight into this step’s true purpose. The goal of working step 6 is all about putting ourselves in the right mindset of cultivating change. Ultimately, our efforts to overcome our addiction is to improve our lives, right? Alcoholics Anonymous uses step 6 as a holistic approach to encourage us to be the best version of ourselves in all aspects – not just our drinking. 

This “best version” of you does not mean perfection, however. The original literature acknowledges that we will still have innate desires or “instincts” that we may want to indulge ourselves in. Rather than saying to deny human nature, simply recognize that the same excuse-making mindset that allowed us to pursue self-destructive drinking behavior to such an extreme level is also present in our other vices.

What Is a Defect of Character? 

Step 6 has AA participants take a step back to recognize that they may possess unhealthy or negative vices, ways of thinking, or behaviors – hereby referred to as “defects of character”. Some of these character defects might have a direct influence on your drinking problem, some might not. 

Some of the defects will be obvious to you, as will their negative impact on your life – those aren’t the ones we’re concerned with (although it is important to address them and how they play a role in your interactions, your mindset, your goals, etc.). Instead, we want to get down to the character defects that, at first glance, might not seem so bad. 

Say for instance, that you partake in gossip from time to time. Harmless, right? Sticks and stones and all that. But deep down, we know that gossip can be quite hurtful and is overall, a negative behavior to partake in – so why do we downplay it? We shrug it off as something inconsequential even though it goes directly against what we know to be true about gossip (that it’s bad). Analyzing things like this that will bring out valuable insight not only about ourselves but highlight just how easily we rationalize and justify the negative behavior surrounding alcohol addiction.  

Types of Character Defects

One of the easiest ways to conceptualize these defects is to consider the seven deadly sins: pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth. Many of the items you might include in your list of character defects would be offsets of these such as being judgemental (pride), a workaholic (greed), or overly critical (envy). 

Not all of the adjectives you think of to describe yourself will fall under one of the seven sins. More importantly, not all character defects are something that you might think of as negative. Let’s revisit the example of being a workaholic. You might actually take pride in this quality in yourself, you believe it to be a testament to your work ethic and reliability. However, deep down you might throw yourself into work for feeling guilty when you’re relaxing, overcompensating for feelings of insecurity regarding your accomplishments, or perhaps trying to make yourself look superior to others. 

Working Step 6: 

The easiest way to create a list of character defects is to include both negative and positive words you would use to describe yourself. Then, dive into the motivation behind those qualities. Take your time, this is not a quick process. In fact, many find this to be an ongoing exercise as they continue to discover more about themselves and dig deeper in their moral inventory

Just remember that the purpose of this process is to create a readiness and willingness to become better people – not an expectation to be perfect. To do this, you’ll be asked to identify undesirable behavior or ways of thinking that you’ve rationalized – or even find to be admirable.   Understand how that same line of thinking can be one of the reasons you have struggled with alcoholism thus far. Resolving your alcohol addiction requires a willingness to change everything about your way of life, not just what you “think” is the problem.

Alcoholics Anonymous: Working Step 5

Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step 5 is the ultimate challenge of humility. It’s the first time that participants are asked to share their deepest, darkest wrongdoings out loud and with another person. If merely the thought of this has you ready to bolt from the meeting room, you’re certainly not alone. Ask any seasoned AA veteran and they’ll tell you that Step 5 is a doozy. But those who are able to do it have reported it as one of the most freeing experiences of their lives. 

A Brief Explanation of Step 5: Taking the Power Out of Past Pain

The thinking behind this step is that only by openly talking about the skeletons in our closets can one truly move past them. It’s a concept similar to that of Catholic confession, and while there may not be a priest to absolve you of your past, Step 5 offers the same promise of relief by allowing recovering addicts to let go of the terrible secrets that chained them to their past.  Like every step before this, working Step 5 requires a recovering alcoholic to knock down yet another wall of ego and pride.

The Purpose of Admitting Wrongs to Others 

There’s a steep price that comes at the cost of carrying a great secret: isolation. Feelings of shame are often derived out of fear or anticipation of judgment, leaving you to shoulder your feelings alone. This inherently creates a feeling of isolation, an invisible barrier you subconsciously put up with everyone you encounter.  

So why does Step 5 ask you to unearth and share your greatest and most shameful secrets? The purpose is quite straightforward. Doing so helps to knock down the walls that addiction puts up around our hearts. Sharing our truths – no matter how unpleasant – banishes the loneliness that addiction often brings. Additionally, revealing your lowest moments to another person releases a tremendous emotional burden, and helps you feel more connected to people once again.

The Biggest Obstacles to Working Step 5

The task of admitting “the exact nature of our wrongs” is considered to be one of the hardest in the Twelve Steps. For many, the promise of releasing the secrets that have been burdening them isn’t enough to entice them to overcome their fear of being judged. Simply by the nature of speaking something out loud can make things seem more “real”. To do so would force us to reckon with our past actions for the first time, adding to the reluctance to go through with the admittance of wrongs. There are two things in particular that tend to be the main point of concern when it comes to step five, here’s how to overcome them:

Choosing a confidante

At first, participants might assume that they will be sharing their most guarded secrets to the entire group or to a complete stranger. Step 5 does not require individuals to stand at a podium, metaphorical or otherwise. It should be comforting to know that you only need to tell one person, and it’s an individual of your choosing. The person who first comes to mind is likely to be your AA sponsor, but it doesn’t have to be. The recipient of your confession should be someone whom you trust, respect, and more than anything, feel comfortable with. It is recommended that it is someone who has also experienced addiction and has had life experiences similar to your own.  

Confessing illegal wrongdoings

Addiction can bring us to do terrible things that we otherwise would never think that we were capable of ( See Step 2: Admitting insanity). Some of those things might even err on the wrong side of the law. It’s not uncommon, but still adds an extra layer of difficulty when it comes to being open and honest. If you are concerned about your confidante being put in an uncomfortable position or the risk that you’ll be reported to authorities, not to worry. The person you choose to confide in does not have to be from the Alcoholics Anonymous organization. You can choose someone who is professionally bound to confidentiality such as a member of the church or a therapist.

Overcoming negative feelings of shame or fear

As social creatures, the thought of revealing the worst aspects of ourselves goes against our most basic of instincts. So if the thought of confessing your lowest moments fills you with dread, take comfort that everyone else in the room with you has (or will have) had to undergo this same task and likely felt the same way you’re feeling now. Think of Step 5 as a rite of passage. Once completed, you’ll feel a much closer bond with the other members of the group.

Tips for Having a Difficult Conversation

Don’t let temporary fear rob you of the opportunity to find peace. Once you’ve gathered the resolve to go through and work Step 5 in earnest, you can employ a few tactics to make the conversation easier: 

  • If a face-to-face conversation is too much, try being in the same room but with your backs turned to one another. Once you’ve begun and feel a bit more comfortable, then turn to face your listener.
  • Wear sunglasses or some sort of face covering. Things like masks and costumes make us feel shielded and thereby lower our inhibitions. Even if your speaker knows who you are, having some sort of physical barrier can help you feel more secure when sharing. 
  • Studies have shown that the brain finds it difficult to speak while maintaining eye contact. if you feel like you’re struggling, feel free to look at the floor, your hands, a spot on the wall, etc. Your listener will understand and won’t be offended.
  • Being vulnerable is one of the bravest things you could possibly be –  it is not a weakness. Embrace the opportunity to do so in a judgment-free environment and remember that you have given yourself over to your higher power and are no longer the person whose actions you are describing

Because of the difficult nature of this task, many in the AA program find it necessary to come back to this step multiple times to eventually get the entire truth out. Don’t feel pressured to have to bear your soul completely in the first go.

Alcoholics Anonymous: Working Step 4

“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

The Purpose of Step Four

In the original text of the 12 steps, the author says that “misdirected instincts” are the cause of physical and mental liabilities, and essentially, addiction itself. The goal of taking a “moral inventory” is to determine the cause(s) of your drinking addiction. It is one of the first deep dives into an addict’s instincts, desires, and motivations. Identifying these is an important gateway to uncovering the underlying root cause of compulsive (and destructive) behaviors. 

How To Conduct a Moral Inventory

There’s a reason the word “fearless” is included in this step, as this process is often not an easy one. To properly and sincerely look inward requires acknowledging some of the worst parts of ourselves. It requires us to confront both our conscious and unconscious feelings – the latter which may be at odds with the version of us we want to be. These affect everything from how we view the world to how we interact with others. 

Self-reflection can be a huge blow to the ego and you may find it difficult to separate yourself from feelings of pride or shame. But this step is not meant to lay you bare and have you self-flagellate. Remember that Step 3 encouraged us to put our moral hangups on a metaphorical shelf under the care of a self-interpreted “higher power”. You are in the process of moving forward and embracing a better version of yourself, and the discomfort you feel is only temporary.

Potential Challenges 

One of the greatest challenges in working step four lies with pride. Having made it this far you might automatically assume you have already accepted that you are imperfect, and are therefore perfectly capable of providing an impartial self-analysis. However, in many instances, the alcoholic will blame the substance as the root of all their character flaws. They consider all the negative aspects of alcoholism – and the things it has driven them to do – as something separate from who they actually are. This line of thinking is defensive and unproductive. 

Those in the throes of working step 4 must understand that it is actually these character flaws that drove them to their compulsion and not the other way around. Despite the humility and honesty, asked of you in steps one, two, and three, you may still unconsciously resist the thought of having to identify your flaws as a person.   

Tips for Working Step 4

The principle of the fourth step is about understanding the core of why we are who we are today. Doing so is intended to help recovering alcoholics identify their internal triggers and the factors that have shaped crucial parts of their identity. These factors are referred to as our “instincts” and they shape everything from our obsessions to how we deal with fear to what we seek in our relationships. By first understanding the “how” of our behavior, we can then move forward to the more important “why”. 

  • Keep a pen and paper handy and physically write out your thoughts
  • Never erase an answer: No matter how embarrassing or seemingly inconsequential, you’re not supposed to pick and choose what you recall about yourself
  • Take your time: As you become more adept at self-reflection and taking a personal inventory of yourself, you’ll be able to dig deeper with every attempt. Don’t expect to list every little detail about yourself in one sitting, consider this an ongoing project of self-discovery.
  • Think chronologically: This will give you a solid place to start and help you anchor your thoughts. Consider significant moments in your childhood, adolescence, and adulthood that evoke strong memories – both good and bad.   

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Alcoholics Anonymous: Working Step 3

“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Step 3 is ultimately about changing the trajectory of one’s life through surrender. Both the word choice and concept of this can be difficult to swallow – even the original text acknowledges the difficulty and that it can seem impossible to fulfill. However, the text also states that this step is one of the most crucial in order to find lasting success with both Alcoholics Anonymous and the remainder of the 12 steps program, making it crucial that working step 3 is done in sincerity.

A Guide to Step 3 of Alcoholics Anonymous

Step 3 is inherently more challenging than the two previous ones because it is the first time being prompted to take action. Steps 1 and 2 were about mental preparation: accepting that healing is needed along with external help. Next is to turn words into action and to make a deeper commitment to the program and in turn, your own recovery. 

Use of the word “decision” is very meaningful as the concept of willingness is an integral part of moving forward in the recovery process. Because while you may find yourself in an AA group meeting against your will, it’s only your own willingness that can bring you to seek real and lasting change. Step 3 marks the first of many active and thoughtfully-made decisions to come. 

The significance of self-will

Step 3 challenges us to  “let go”  so that we are no longer operating solely based on our own self-will. The concept (also referred to as human will or free will) has strong cultural implications and is closely tied to our personal identities. For that reason, the concept of relinquishing that control is one that is quite foreign to us – especially to AA beginners – and can be difficult to grapple with. 

However, this urging to “turn our will” over is not said to eliminate our sense of self or our individuality. Self-will is fraught with ego, bias, and selfishness. It tends to dominate our thoughts and actions and can lead us astray. Forgoing self-will and instead, following a new path that is laid for us via a “higher power” that has our best interests at heart, is far more likely to lead us to recovery.

Working Step 3 if You’re Not Religious

For those who aren’t religious, the mention of ‘God’ can be uncomfortable and a major roadblock to connecting with this statement. However, the original author of the 12 Steps of Recovery wanted the program to be accessible by all and purposely included the phrase “as we understood Him”. Once again, the use of the capitalized ‘h’ in “Him” would appear to be another reference to the standard Christian concept of God. However, it is meant to modify the prior mention of God, and encourage individual interpretation. 

This higher power can simply be a general sense of spirituality or even another person. In many interpretations, participants have determined their AA groups as their higher power. Regardless of how or who you choose to rely on, faith is a major component to successfully working Step 3.

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Alcoholics Anonymous: Working Step 2

“Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”

Working Step 2: What It Means & How To Do It

Whereas Step 1 is about recognizing the scope of your substance abuse problem, Step 2 is the leap of faith that emphasizes that overcoming addiction is something you cannot do alone. It’s understanding that up until now, you have primarily been self-reliant in trying to overcome addiction and that now, you are ready to accept external help. 

What does ‘a Power greater than ourselves’ mean?

While the mention of ‘Power’ traditionally refers to God – your interpretation does not have to (we’ll touch back on this later). It can be any person, place, thing, or even a feeling, that can serve as an unwavering source of motivation for you. These external motivators will help keep long-term goals in perspective during moments of weakness.  Examples of non-religious “higher powers” can be an instrument you play, a family member that’s rooting for you, the desire to see the next season of a show you love, or simply your AA sponsor.

What does ‘Restore us to sanity’ mean? 

This phrase is known for being somewhat off-putting to recovering addicts. At face value, it would seem that it is implying the reader is insane or crazy. Naturally, this could be a cause for taking offense. One of the core beliefs of addiction recovery is that you are more than your addiction and it’s odd that an organization dedicated to helping addicts would place such judgment on its participants. 

Step Two is not meant to be a personal attack. Keep in mind that the 12 Steps for Recovery were written nearly a century ago. Many of the terms they use and their way of speaking does not seamlessly carry over to our modern-day language. As for actually carrying out Step 2, consider your actions related to addiction – there are probably a few things that could qualify as a bit insane. 

You may have prioritized drinking over work, relationships, and even your own basic sustenance. You may have done things you never would have otherwise like rob a family member or lie to your spouse. Realizing that your alcohol habits led you to do and say things that are out of character. 

Reading Is Believing…Right? 

One aspect that can sometimes trip up even the most devoted of 12 Step participants is the use of the past tense “came to believe”. Whether these words are read aloud or in your mind, if it sounds like you’re being told that you’ve already done something, you might fail to reflect whether you’ve actually internalized the message being this step. To properly work step two requires reflection and a deep look inward for what truly motivates us – and sometimes, those things aren’t as noble as we would like to believe.

Is Alcoholics Anonymous Only For Christians?

A common challenge new Alcoholics Anonymous members face when participating in the 12 Steps programs is the heavy religious overtones. God, faith, prayer – these are all recurring topics mentioned throughout AA’s principles, foundations, and practices. What’s the connection between Alcoholics Anonymous and religion? It actually is due to the organization’s origins as a Christian group when it was founded almost a century ago in 1935. 

For those who aren’t of the Christian faith – or any faith for that matter – the direct and indirect mentions of God can feel alienating. Fortunately, you don’t need to be religious to participate in AA or successfully complete the 12 Steps of Recovery. Working Step 2 can be done by anyone – no matter their religious affiliation (or lack thereof). 

Find An Alcoholics Anonymous Group Near You

Nowadays, many AA groups have adopted a secular version of the 12 Steps program. The underlying messaging is the same, but the steps have simply been revised to omit any religious mentions. This can make it easier for non-religious members to relate and allows for a wider range of interpretations. Some groups take it a step further and have established themselves as an AA group for non-religious folks to serve as a safe space for agnostics and atheists. 

It’s important to find a group where you feel comfortable – after all, you will have to share some of your lowest moments with these people. To make sure you find the AA group that’s right for you, visit our Alcoholics Anonymous meeting directory to find meetings near you. 

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How To Choose Addiction Treatment Centers

Beating your drug or alcohol addiction is not easy, but choosing the right facility can make all the difference. The question then becomes: how do you pick one? There are over 14,000 addiction treatment centers in the United States which can vary by the types of treatments, programs, or facilities they offer. There’s so much at stake that deciding which rehab to go to is not something that should be done lightly. Here are 3 important factors to consider when choosing between addiction treatment centers. 

Location

Your first thought may be to search for an addiction treatment center near you. You’re ready to get clean ASAP so you look for rehab facilities that are close by. There are certainly benefits to staying local – being close to loved ones, saving on travel costs, you might even be able to continue going to work – however, these conveniences might actually hinder your recovery. 

Local vs Going Away

Just as you have the freedom to choose to check yourself into rehab, you have the freedom to leave even if your program is incomplete. Anxiety, cravings, or a false sense of recovery can cause patients to leave rehab early. Being in a city you know with plenty of resources at your disposal (your own car, knowledge of public transport, or nearby friends that could pick you up) makes giving into temptation easy, and the option to abandon their treatment easily accessible. 

Urban vs Rural Setting

For this reason, many addicts opt to travel out-of-state for treatment. But don’t simply sign on for scenic views or exotic locations. It’s important to consider what environment you’re going into. Swapping one fast-paced city for another may still be familiar enough to tempt you astray making a peaceful, remote location a better choice. On the other hand, if boredom in a small town is what drove you to abuse drugs in the first place, perhaps a bustling metropolis with lots of options of sober activities to partake in might prove more helpful to your recovery. 

Types of Treatment Available

Once you’ve narrowed down the setting and place where you’d like to undergo addiction treatment, there’s the matter of finding the type of treatment that’s best for you. Inpatient, outpatient, or perhaps as a mix of both? This will depend on the severity of your addiction. You may require intensive care or be just fine with only a few weeks of therapy. In addition, you may need or want medical intervention to mitigate detox or withdrawal side effects, which not all facilities offer. It can be impossible to self-diagnose how serious your own addiction is. Fortunately, most addiction treatment centers conduct an evaluation to determine the level of care you need.

Detox

This is the most intensive type of addiction treatment available. In detox, patients receive 24/7 care tailored to the specific needs of the first days of recovery. Detox facilities often incorporate some form of medically assisted treatment to help manage symptoms and others also incorporate alternative therapies. Detox may last anywhere from a few days to 2 weeks depending on the patient’s needs.

Inpatient/Residential Treatment

After detox, the patient may move to a long term residential program where they live on the premises and receive 24-hour care which often includes medical treatment such as detoxing, along with therapy-based counseling. The length of these types of programs can vary greatly, ranging from 6 months to a year or a shorter-term stay of 3 to 6 weeks. Naturally, this is the most expensive type of addiction treatment which will also influence whether intensive inpatient treatment is a viable option.

Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP)

Partial hospitalization provides comparable levels of attentive care as inpatient treatment would. The primary difference is that in PHP the patient does not live on the premises. They will likely live in a sober home or halfway house during this stage of treatment. Other than that there is still a considerable amount of psychiatric support in addition to behavioral therapy. This is often the next step in the recovery journey as a patient transitions from 24-hour inpatient care to outpatient. Many of the support in this stage focus on addressing causes of addiction developing healthy coping mechanisms.

Outpatient Treatment

Designed to help recovering addicts transition back to their normal life, fully outpatient treatment is the least intense. This is for individuals who are ready to transition back to normal life, while still finding time to reflect on their recovery. It typically entails a few hours of therapy each week but allows the person a significant level of freedom, allowing them to return to work as normal or simply pursue other activities. This is often the final stage of the recovery process but is also sometimes used for those who cannot commit to higher levels of care.

Your Mental Health

If you have a pre-existing mental health disorder, you should seek addiction treatment centers that specialize in the simultaneous treatment of psychological and substance abuse disorders. These types of programs are called Dual Diagnosis Treatment. They have become much more prevalent in modern addiction treatment as more and more research has shown that mental disorders play a significant role in addiction. 

 

No matter which came first, if some sort of psychiatric illness is present alongside substance abuse, it falls under this diagnosis. Depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder are a few of the most common disorders that frequently coincide with drug abuse. One often influences the other and can be so intertwined that it’s impossible to effectively treat addiction without addressing the role the mental illness has played. 

Learn More About Addiction Treatment Centers

Not all addiction treatment centers are equal – in fact, they can be the difference between life and death. The facility you choose will be responsible for both your physical and mental well-being in addition to the overarching goal of long-term addiction recovery. The facility you choose may need to attend to your immediate health risks via medical detox, be able to get you through the initial unpleasantness of withdrawal, and stay by your side to help you manage any remaining cravings.

Alcoholics Anonymous: Working Step 1

“We admit we are powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.”

Breaking Down Step One: How To Complete It Properly

Step 1 of the Alcoholics Anonymous Program may seem straightforward and simple, but it is quite multifaceted. AA participants often mistakenly consider this first step completed by default since they are already aware that they have a problem. However, this approach will cheapen the eye-opening experience that the 12 Steps are intended to provide. If you’re looking to get the most out of your program, working Step 1 correctly will make your recovery journey so much more meaningful.

Deceptively simple, many fail to recognize the gravity of Step 1 and take it to mean “admitting that there is a problem”. While that is inarguably a crucial part of overcoming addiction, it falls short of this step’s true goal. Misconceptions like these are the main obstacle to properly working Step 1 and getting the most out of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Acknowledging the problem is not the same as true admittance of how out of control your addiction is

Many alcoholics in the beginning stages of Alcoholics Anonymous assume they have already completed Step 1 by default because they are actively partaking in a program, have checked into a rehab facility, or have taken initiative to find resources online. While these are fantastic steps towards recovering from alcohol addiction, they do not automatically mean that you have genuinely come to terms with how out of control your drinking has become and how severely it has disrupted your life.

You can be in Alcoholics Anonymous and still be in denial

Your body may be physically present at a meeting or therapy session, but your mind can still hold pockets of resistance. You might unwittingly still blame a friend or family member for drinking in your presence, that if you just stayed away from them you wouldn’t be tempted to drink. Or perhaps you feel that your high-stress job drove you to alcohol and once you find a new one, your drinking habits will return to normal. 

Thoughts like these indicate that deep down, you feel that your addiction is the fault of others and that external factors are the true culprit, rather than a lack of your own willpower, discipline, or self-control. Denial is commonplace in addiction recovery; it is a psychological form of self-defense as there can be a lot of shame and stigma tied to addiction. But until you have internalized that you are ultimately the person responsible for the situation you are in, true recovery is impossible. To truly complete Step 1, to admit powerlessness and that you have lost control over your life, requires a deep sense of humility and acceptance of responsibility.

Get Help Working Step 1

Completing step one is a crucial part of the addiction recovery process. However, it can be quite challenging as you must overcome any lingering sense of denial or blame towards others. Coming to terms and facing the reality of your addictions is the most powerful catalyst for positive change – but difficult to do on your own. Find an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting near you today with our helpful and free AA directory. 

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How To Stop Drinking Alcohol

According to reports published by Alcoholics Anonymous, there are nearly 2.1 million AA members across the world. That is over 2 million individuals who have a desire to stop drinking alcohol and to stay sober. If this was an easy feat, then alcoholics wouldn’t need a support group. Figuring out how to stop drinking alcohol is something that each and every one of these members has most likely struggled with. Here are 10 things you can do to improve your journey to sobriety:

  1. Make a plan
  2. Establish a support system
  3. Be open-minded
  4. Implement self-care 
  5. Pay attention to your diet & nutrition
  6. Talk to your doctor
  7. Find new, healthy hobbies
  8. Download a recovery app
  9. Set attainable long-term goals
  10. Reach out for help

Make a Plan

It’s easier to cope with the struggles of recovery when there is a plan already set. For instance, don’t wait until the cravings have already set in to decide how to overcome them. It is easier to overcome cravings when you have already had coping strategies in place. Consider what you will do and who you will call. What if you get withdrawal symptoms? Will you be in a facility that can treat you? If not, how will you get help in the event of a medical emergency? A treatment center has professionals who will help a client develop and implement a plan for recovery.

Establish Your Support System

Support from family and friends can be extremely helpful through the recovery process, but family members don’t necessarily understand what you are going through. Having professional and/or relatable support usually comes from places outside of your immediate social circle. Alcoholics Anonymous runs support group meetings that can be found across the country and are offered in various formats to meet each community’s needs. Through AA you can also find a sponsor, someone you can call whenever you need to talk and help hold you accountable. For those who don’t feel AA is right for them, there are other support options such as SMART Recovery.

Be Open-Minded

When it comes to getting sober and receiving treatment, stay open-minded. You may not have been someone who ever expected to take a yoga class, but you may end up finding this type of therapy extremely helpful. Additionally, it is ideal to be able to get sober without taking additional medications, but for some people, MAT is the safest route. Medications such as naltrexone have been found to be highly effective for alcohol recovery. Be willing to try different treatments and therapies to find what works for you.

Implement Self Care

Self-care means taking the time to do things that improve mental and physical wellbeing. Massages and yoga classes are 2 examples of common self-care activities, but in reality, self-care looks different for each person. For one person, self-care may be taking a nature walk once a week, whereas for others it might be going golfing. Think about what brings you joy and make it a point to find time for that particular activity.

Pay Attention to Your Diet & Nutrition

What you put into your body can either strengthen or weaken both your mind and body. For one, proper nutrition will improve the detox process by reducing the severity and length of withdrawal symptoms. On the other hand, malnutrition and dehydration can make symptoms significantly worse. Some symptoms, such as cravings, can actually last for months into sobriety. Proper nutrition can actually help reduce these symptoms and promote healing of damage that alcohol causes to one’s heart, brain, and liver. 

Talk to Your Doctor

Alcohol detox can be dangerous for an individual with a severe addiction. Before going “cold turkey”, talk with your primary care physician. They can evaluate your situation and provide advice to minimize any possible risks associated with getting sober. There is no need to risk any complications when your goal is to improve your life for the long term. An alcohol detox facility will provide access to a medical doctor that can help ensure your wellbeing and provide medical attention.

Find New, Healthy Hobbies

When going to bars or staying home with a bottle of whiskey are no longer options, what are you going to do with your free time? Think of sobriety as an opportunity to pick up a new hobby, skill, or activity. Maybe you are going to learn how to code or maybe you are going to grow a garden. 

Download a Recovery App

There are countless applications that you can download on your phone to get portable support. Some of them you can even download for free. For instance, Sober Grid is a free online recovery forum and Sobriety Counter counts how much money you have saved by not drinking. Here is a list of recovery mobile apps:

  • 12 Steps AA Companion
  • I Am Sober
  • Nomo
  • Sober Grid
  • Sobriety Counter
  • Stop Drinking with Andrew Johnson
  • Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Set Attainable Long-term Goals

Why do you want to get sober? Are you hoping to improve your relationship with your spouse or children? Do you want to progress in your career? What does this look like? Use these questions to set some goals for yourself. Make sure they are attainable. An example of a strong, attainable goal would be “plan a date with my spouse once a month for 6 months.” Sticking to this goal helps create structure and helps rebuild an important relationship.

Reach Out For Help

Never, I repeat, never think that you have to do this alone. There is always someone who will be willing to talk with you or help you through a tough time. From family and friends to crisis helplines, you are never without an option. At Find Recovery, our helpline is open 24/7. We are here to help direct you to the resources that you need.

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How Long Does It Take To Detox From Alcohol?

According to the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA), “hangover symptoms peak when the blood alcohol concentration in the body returns to about zero.” So if you think that you will feel fresh and normal once the alcohol has left your system, you are sadly mistaken. Keep in mind, this statistic does not factor in instances of alcohol dependence. Someone who is dependant on alcohol will not only experience the symptoms of a standard hangover, but they are also likely to develop alcohol withdrawal symptoms as their body detoxes. The length of time that it takes to detox from alcohol can vary significantly depending on a number of factors. 

Alcohol Detox Timeline Overview

The detox timeline for alcohol does vary but always follows a general pattern. The timeline is measured based on when the last drink was consumed. Here is what to expect based on approximately how long it has been since an individual has consumed their last alcoholic beverage.

  • 6 to 12 hours: Mild withdrawal symptoms begin to appear
  • 12 to 24 hours: Moderate to severe withdrawal symptoms begin to appear
  • 72 hours: Delerium Tremons symptoms appear
  • 5+ days: Symptoms taper off

Factors Affecting Alcohol Detox Timelines

Not everyone experiences moderate to severe withdrawal symptoms. The severity and length of time these symptoms present for depends on:

  • Length of use: The longer someone has been heavily drinking alcohol, the more severe their symptoms will be, and the longer they may last.
  • Amount used: Similar to the length of use, someone who drinks heavier will experience more severe symptoms.
  • Cross drug use: When other drugs are taken in conjunction with alcohol it can significantly exacerbate the intensity and length of withdrawal.
  • Nutrition & Hydration: A nutritious diet, proper hydration, and vitamin and mineral supplements can help the body process alcohol for quicker healing. This can reduce the severity of withdrawal symptoms and speed up how long it would take to detox from alcohol.
  • Biology: Various biological factors including genetics, gender, etc., can also cause alcohol detox to be longer and more severe or shorter and less severe.

How Long Does Alcohol Stay In Your System?

As mentioned earlier, symptoms of a hangover (as well as detox) typically peak when an individual’s BAC hits 0. This means that if we know when there is no longer any alcohol in one’s system, then theoretically we will know when the symptoms are as bad as they are going to get. The factors listed above that affect alcohol detox timelines can also affect how long alcohol stays in your system. As a general reference, someone who is not dependent on alcohol can refer to a BAC table to determine how much alcohol is still in their system. However, most of these tables only go up to a certain amount of drinks. Someone who drank to an extreme excess or who has developed a severe alcohol dependence may not reach a BAC of 0 for 72 hours. 

Alcohol Testing

As mentioned, BAC charts are a good way for the average person to get an idea of how much alcohol may be in their system, but they do have their limitations. There are a number of ways to test an individual’s BAC but not all of them can detect alcohol for the same amount of time.

  • Breathalyzer: up to 24 hours
  • Blood test: 12 to 72 hours
  • Urine test: 12 to 48 hours
  • Hair test: several months

Are you or a loved one ready to detox from alcohol? If you are worried about how long it will take or how severe the symptom may be, an alcohol detox program can help. Find a treatment center near you.

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What Is Binge Drinking?

Have you ever gone to a party with friends and started off with a few mixed drinks, then taken a couple of shots of tequila in between drinks, then shotgunned a beer, and had a couple more mixed drinks? Well, that is certainly a case of binge drinking, but not all cases are this severe and some are more severe. So what exactly is binge drinking?

According to Merriam Webster, the definition of the noun binge is an unrestrained and often excessive indulgence or an act of excessive or compulsive consumption (as of food). Binge drinking is when you drink excessively, but “excessive” can be subjective? In order to talk scientifically about binge drinking, we need to define where the line is. 

Different organizations define binge drinking differently based on a few different factors. These factors could be the number of drinks consumed, blood alcohol content, gender, and length of use. The National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Addiction (NIAAA) and the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) are 2 of the more reputable organizations that provide definitions of binge drinking.

NIAAA – “a pattern of drinking alcohol that brings blood alcohol concentration (BAC) to 0.08 percent – or 0.08 grams of alcohol per deciliter – or higher. For a typical adult, this pattern corresponds to consuming 5 or more drinks (male), or 4 or more drinks (female), in about 2 hours.” 

SAMSHA – “5 or more alcoholic drinks for males or 4 or more alcoholic drinks for females on the same occasion (i.e., at the same time or within a couple of hours of each other) on at least 1 day in the past month.”

Binge Drinking vs. Heavy Alcohol Use

We now understand that binge drinking is drinking alcohol to excess, but then what is heavy alcohol use? Aren’t they the same thing? Actually, they are not. 

The NIAAA’s definition for binge drinking isn’t that far off from their definition of heavy alcohol use, “more than 4 drinks on any day for men or more than 3 drinks for women.” However, the way SAMHSA differs the 2 is that binge drinking is drinking heavily within a short period of time whereas heavy alcohol use is binge drinking over a period of time: “binge drinking on 5 or more days in the past month.”

Who Binge Drinks?

According to the CDC (who uses the NIAAA definitions for binge drinking and heavy alcohol use0, about 1 in 6 adults binge drink 4 or more times per month. Additionally, men and people between ages 18 and 34 are the populations most likely to binge drink. Lastly, of the people under age 21 who report drinking any alcohol, the majority participate in binge drinking.

Risks of Binge Drinking

The risks associated with binge drinking are many and are extremely severe. These include:

  • Alcohol use disorders/alcohol addiction
  • Heart disease
  • Accidental injuries (car crashes, falls, and burns)
  • Violence towards others and self
  • Poor pregnancy outcomes
  • Cancer (mouth, throat, esophagus, breast, liver, colon)
  • Memory loss
  • Learning impairments
  • Death

Preventing Binge Drinking

It can be easy to say “don’t drink excessively”, but it is not as easily done. For one, many people don’t know what constitutes binge drinking or how dangerous it can be. Additionally, alcoholism is a powerful mental illness that is not always overcome easily. However, just because preventing binge drinking is difficult, doesn’t mean it is impossible. If you could save yourself or your loved one from the risks listed above, wouldn’t you? Here are 3 things you can do to prevent binge drinking:

  • Educate your children, friends, and/or family members on what binge drinking is and it’s risks.
  • Set an example and limit your drinks. Say no to the round of shots. Just by you saying no, others who aren’t interested will feel more comfortable also saying no.
  • Provide delicious alternatives to alcoholic drinks. Think mocktails. Believe it or not, those fruity mixed drinks still taste amazing without alcohol.

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